I May Frustrate You, But I'M A KEEPER!

ABOUT Ray W. Lincoln

Ray W. Lincoln
Originally from New Zealand, I have lived in the United States almost continuously since 1971.  My interests are writing, painting, hiking, fly fishing and photography - among other things.  As an international professional life coach and speaker, I help people to discover the direction  More...



The parenting manual you have been waiting for! Why can't they be like me?" asks the puzzled parent; the child thinks, "Why can't my parents understand me?" Love that is aided by understanding will transform your parenting and dramatically increase its joy. Understanding is underrated! Parenting is the most complex task we humans engage in. It can challenge, thrill, encourage, frustrate, and confuse you - all in less than a day! However, it can be made enjoyable and much simpler if only we will learn how our children feel on the inside when they act, or choose not to act. Understanding the different temperaments will help you meet your child's urgent and deep emotional needs. This book will: 1. Help you take a giant step in understanding your child. 2. Help you avoid conflicts with your child and give you understanding of the interaction between your temperament and your child's temperament. 3. Lower the stress and create the bonding a family dreams about. 4. Help you guide your child to achieve his or her potential. 5. Increase your child's self-esteem and return your confidence in parenting. And much more . . . Want immediate help and solutions? This book has a FAST TRACK! The author has studied extensively in the field of temperament and is an expert on human nature. He gives you the benefit of his many years of counseling and coaching parents and children. In these pages you will find the principles of the best scientific research on temperament broken down into helpful analysis and practical tools. Every family should possess a copy and will be sure to use it over and over again.

An angry, out of control eight-year-old was terrifying his older brother (twice his size) and his parents as well. The child had no friends because of his constant anger and lashing out. The parents came to me desperate for help. They'd tried everything! From their description of their son and what was going on in the home, I suspected Joel was of a very rare temperament who was seldom understood: very sensitive and easily hurt. However, I needed proof. He was constantly angry, they said, so I told them to go home and the next time he became angry to very lovingly hold him and tell him they were sorry he was hurt and ask how they could help him. Then they were to call me and tell me what happened. Very soon my phone rang and a very surprised parent said, "It was amazing. He broke down in tears." My suspicion was confirmed. We formulated a plan to help Joel and, within 2 weeks, the parents called to say they had a peaceful home. Three months later Joel completed an assignment in school that radiated a high self esteem over having "lots of friends." Multiple such stories of dramatically changed home environments and brighter futures for a child through simply understanding how the child is made on the inside, and the requests of parents to share this understanding (from more than thirty years of application) with more parents than I could touch in the coaching office, compelled me to provide this book.

This review is from: I May Frustrate You, But I'm a Keeper (Parenting with Love and Confidence) (Paperback)
This book has not only helped me to understand my children, but also in understanding myself and my husband. I always thought that I was weird and now I know that I'm not, but I think differently than the world - and that's pretty cool. I have changed my attitude toward parenting and changed my own techniques into something that actually works now, thanks to Ray Lincoln. I am recommending EVERYONE read this book. And I am telling all teachers that they could benefit from it too. Thank you again, Ray, for the knowledge - because as we all know, Knowledge is Power!
Great Book and Helpful for Homeschool families too!, March 19, 2010
This review is from: I May Frustrate You, But I'm a Keeper (Parenting with Love and Confidence) (Paperback)
This is a very thorough and helpful book on human temperaments. You will learn how your child and youself learn, play, work through problems, work with others and how and why you do the things you do. Each one of our children are so different and sometimes we are stuck with a learning style or a behavioural issue that we have never dealt with and Ray is so good in explaining how to love and nurture each one of your children's personalities. Are they introverted or extroverted, do you view the world with your senses or do you care about time or does your child have an imaginary friend and what to do about it. Is your child organized, bossy, information minded........ 

The book deals with the strengths of each temperaments and then the weaknesses so that you are able to help your child be successful and then work on their weaknesses so they don't spend a lifetime struggling with them. 

Since reading the book, it has helped us as parents relate so much more intimately with our children and we've been able to encourage their strengths and they have responded so positively, it was worth every penny. We also homeschool and it's been such a blessing to teach to their temperament knowing that that is how they are made and work with it and compliment them has been so great. 

Thanks to Ray for putting together such helpful information and all in one book, you don't have to search any further!!! This book is a great tool for families and is great information for the homeschool family that is not only parenting but teaching as well.
If you're frustrated with parenting, try this book, March 16, 2010
This review is from: I May Frustrate You, But I'm a Keeper (Parenting with Love and Confidence) (Paperback)
My daughter is grown but still struggles with issues and relies on us for advice. Understanding her temperament has been invaluable to me in understanding her decisions and being able to provide better guidance. Moreover, it has helped her to come to grips with her own feelings and accept that she is not the only one that feels the way she does. She realizes now that she is not alone. Even if your kids are grown, if they are still in your life this book will be helpful. It helped me to understand my own motivations too. We can't wait for his next book!

By B. Valdez (Centennial, CO) - See all my reviews
This review is from: I May Frustrate You, But I'm a Keeper (Parenting with Love and Confidence) (Paperback)
I admit, I was skeptical about parenting to the temperaments of your children. But after taking the tests, reading the results that came about and implementing the changes Ray suggests; we are seeing a wonderful peace come into our home. It has caused us to realize that our 8 yr old daughter needed a different style of parenting, praise, rewards & consequences. Not to mention teaching our 5 yr old son to read or do chores using the advice of this book is much less cumbersome. IT WORKS! Please try this at home! Ray's book makes sense, makes you aware of how God made us different & we should respect that & not change that. A few changes on your part could lead to a happier, less challenging life for your child (isn't that what we all want as parents?). Wishing he had written this 30+ years ago! Nice work Ray, may God Bless your book & ministry.
Wonderful!, March 8, 2010
By Saranhallad (Colorado) - See all my reviews
This review is from: I May Frustrate You, But I'm a Keeper (Parenting with Love and Confidence) (Paperback)
This book has been enormously helpful in understanding the motivation and drives behind my children's behavior. I am no longer baffled and frustrated, but understanding and compassionate. I can more easily assist them in coping with their disappointments and celebrate with them their joys. It has made parenting much less stressful and confusing and a lot more fun. I highly recommend it to anyone with a child in their lives. I just bought a second copy for my pregnant friend. It's just a wonderful, wonderful book!
A Resource for ALL families!, April 4, 2010
This review is from: I May Frustrate You, But I'm a Keeper (Parenting with Love and Confidence) (Paperback)
I May Frustrate You, But I'm a Keeper by Ray W. Lincoln could be a life-changing book for parents and teachers, and the children in their lives. Having been a facilitator for parenting classes for over twenty years, I do believe that I have just found a resource that parents should not be without. I also think that if I would have the parents of my students help to identify their child's temperament style at the beginning of the school year, it could be very enlightening and helpful in teaching my third graders, and would help the parents as well. I truly am looking forward to sharing this book with both parents and teachers. 

Mr. Lincoln takes us into the historical background of temperaments but puts his book into a reader-friendly format so that readers can learn about themselves and how they approach life. The Adult Temperament Key as well as the Child Temperament Key are based on research and are quick and easy to figure out and just may change the reader's whole approach to working with the children, either at home or in the classroom. The bottom line is the assessments are evaluating how you are made on the inside. They are strength-finding assessments, so very positive in nature. 

Mr. Lincoln states in I'm a Keeper that "This book is your basic manual for parenting with understanding and skill; and if you follow its suggestions you will become a Super Parent." I believe that combining your knowledge about temperament with a few other parenting strategies would prove Mr. Lincoln to be correct. We all want to be "super parents," do we not? Purchasing this book is a small investment that will pay off in a big way if readers take the time to approach life via the strategies provided in this manual. 

This book is a keeper., January 1, 2010
This review is from: I May Frustrate You, But I'm a Keeper (Parenting with Love and Confidence) (Paperback)
I jusr ordered my second copy of Ray Lincoln's book. This book is outstanding in helping you understand you can't fit your child into YOUR mold. Once you understand your child has his or her own personality you can help them grow to the person they were created to be. I was Director of Children's Ministry at a large church in Denver, CO for many years. I wish I had this book 30 years ago during my career and when my son was young. You won't be sorry if you buy this book. It is outstanding. I hope to be able to attend one of Dr. Lincoln's seminars on parenting because now I'm a Grandma. BUY THIS BOOK! You won't be sorry.

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