Description
This is a teen parenting and relationship guide by the ultimate
authorities in psychology. Christine Evans is a columnist, TV and radio
agony aunt, and a qualified psychotherapist, specializing in parenting
,anxiety disorders, and family concerns, known for her sound advice.
Dr. David Usher is an MD, family planning specialist and clinical
sexologists. He is the author of numerous books and a regular guest on
both TV and radio. "Enjoy them now, they'll soon be teenagers!"
Warnings like this from friends and relatives, together with media
images of adolescents as irresponsible, rebellious troublemakers, can
lead parents to expect trouble as their children enter puberty. It is a
rare parent who does not approach a child's adolescence without some
misgivings. But family life does not have to be a battleground during
the teenage years. If your child constantly misbehave and ignore or
refuse your requests for proper behavior? If your relationship with
your child based on conflict instead of mutual respect and cooperation
then this book will help you to create a positive, respectful, and
rewarding relationship with your child. This book focuses on strategies
parents can use to deal with typical teenage behavior. The essence of
their technique teaches parents to allow their children to learn about
solving their own problems by setting up choices and consequences. The
contents gives solid tips on how to work toward a positive outcome and
offers a variety of scenarios, demonstrating precisely how a parent's
words and actions can be the source of a teen's compliant or defiant
response. When parents and teens are getting along, family life can be
wonderful. Teens really are enjoyable and energizing. Their wit and
high spirits make them fun to be around. Although this guide is
intended mainly for parents of teenagers, it is general enough to be
useful to parents of younger children as well.
Praise and Reviews
I have been reading parenting books for years. The book teaches how
parents can assist instead of disrupting the child's natural process of
learning. Permit a child the consequences of their own mistakes when
they are young and they will learn not to make big, life changing
mistakes when they are adults. Become a friend and respected confidant
to your child whose opinion he respects. There are excellent, real life
accounts of how to apply the techniques.
To avoid a power struggle with my son who didn't want to put on his
clothes or coat for a 5 minute ride home from my sister's house, I used
Parenteen principles. On a cold January evening I carried him to the
car in his underwear. Moments later, he said, "I'm cold." I simply kept
driving and said, ... Perhaps next time you will make a different
choice?" A natural instinct would be to cover him up and protect him
from the cold. He was not injured in any way. By sticking to the
principle, however, he learned two very important lessons: 1) mom is
not kidding around, and 2) it's smart to wear your clothes and a coat.
Since that evening, we have not struggled to get dressed. Try it!
The philosophies of authors are very similar--offering many sanity
saving alternatives to yelling, bribing, threatening, criticing, and
nagging that we often resort to at our wits' end. This book is helpful,
humorous and worth keeping handy for when you need some quick advice or
just some empathy on one of those really bad days when you think you
are about to lose your mind!